tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post105221327495626606..comments2024-01-25T09:26:15.915-05:00Comments on Dixie Yid: Secular Advocate for Shidduch Dating?!DixieYid (يهودي جنوبي)http://www.blogger.com/profile/03713423988723533390noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-85827262506556736762008-11-19T10:37:00.000-05:002008-11-19T10:37:00.000-05:00I would be interested in reading the book. I am no...I would be interested in reading the book. I am not frum at all, but I do find the concept of arranged marriages something that I would possibly consider if it is true that issues of compatibility are resolved before you even date the person.<BR/><BR/>willblesch.blogspot.comWill Bleschhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18317595012590433372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-74809631537523611072008-11-19T10:30:00.000-05:002008-11-19T10:30:00.000-05:00josh,True. I'm famailiar with that one as well, bu...josh,<BR/><BR/>True. I'm famailiar with that one as well, but it's it amazing that this book comes out whose title says about the marriage/love order that "First Comes Marriage" right in Parshas Chayei Sorah with the pasuk about Yitzchak!<BR/><BR/>This is not an issue which has a one-size-fits-all right answer for every single person, but to the secular world, the idea that marriage should preceed love *any of the time* is a chiddush.<BR/><BR/>I don't see the pasuk by Yaakov as a stira. But they are pointing out two different approaches that may be right for different people.<BR/><BR/>-Dixie YidDixieYid (يهودي جنوبي)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03713423988723533390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-27614555427991918442008-11-19T10:26:00.000-05:002008-11-19T10:26:00.000-05:00one thing to keep in mind is that while one can ma...one thing to keep in mind is that while one can make this diyuk for Yitzchak, one can make the opposite diyuk for Yaakov. He personally went to find a mate, and Bereishit 29:18 states וַיֶּאֱהַב יַעֲקֹב, אֶת-רָחֵל; וַיֹּאמֶר, אֶעֱבָדְךָ שֶׁבַע שָׁנִים, בְּרָחֵל בִּתְּךָ, הַקְּטַנָּה. So he loved her before he married her.joshwaxmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05149022516101476797noreply@blogger.com