tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post1015107945658782842..comments2024-01-25T09:26:15.915-05:00Comments on Dixie Yid: Am I Wrong to Join the Rat Race?DixieYid (يهودي جنوبي)http://www.blogger.com/profile/03713423988723533390noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-48336213837039186562010-07-29T14:39:58.340-04:002010-07-29T14:39:58.340-04:00I think the problem is not loving your job; the pr...I think the problem is not loving your job; the problem is probably loving the pursuit of money. You should have much success from your job, and continued nachas from your family.redsneakzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03601491021519995930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-48731842443567787282010-07-28T18:16:29.909-04:002010-07-28T18:16:29.909-04:00In one of his sichot the late Lubavitcher Rebbe to...In one of his sichot the late Lubavitcher Rebbe told a story of a yid and a goy who were both wagon drivers. The goy said to the yid, "what do you get out of your religion that makes it so worth while."(I am assuming with persecutions and all). The yid said, "Everything I do is for a purpose." The goy replied, everything I do is for a purpose. The yid asked, "Why do you work driving carts?" The goy replied so that I can have a roof over my head to sleep, some vodka to help me sleep, and some food to eat so that I sleep soundly." The yid asked, "Why do you sleep?" The goy replied, "So that I will have the energy to work." The yid answered "and there is the difference, I work, so that I might have food to eat, so that I will have the strength to serve hashem, that I might have a home with a family to serve Hashem, I sleep so that I might be rested to serve HaShem."<br /><br />Ultimately it is all a matter of perspective.Rabbi Michael Tzadokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02307256653501750003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-54136128102191266852010-07-27T17:56:51.377-04:002010-07-27T17:56:51.377-04:00Just hang in there. These issues have way of work...Just hang in there. These issues have way of working themselves out!Neil Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12797772082427806345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-75627864947570938762010-07-26T19:02:02.408-04:002010-07-26T19:02:02.408-04:00then perhaps your avodah is not doing the avodah.
...then perhaps your avodah is not doing the avodah.<br />I'm sure you know the maaseh of reb zushah and reb meilech stuck in a prison cell with a foul smelling toilet in the center. Reb Elimelech was very pained that he had not davened mincha yet and would miss the zman because of the tzoah in their cell. Reb Zusha told him don't be pained sometimes the avodah is not to do the avodah. He thought for a minute and then they began to sing and dance around the toilet. At that point one of the guards was passing by and saw them rejoicing he asked another inmate why they were so happy and he pointed to the bucket. at that point the guard removed the bucket and he was able to daven. Not sure if the bucket is law for you cause you like it yet you say it is may prevent your avodah and you are worried about that. Perhaps you need to embrace not doing the avodah which at which point hashem may or may not decide you have gotten the point? not sure been struggling with this story and your situation myself for a bit now...machinegunfodderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10707468540479104818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-11381682154965407432010-07-26T13:57:30.145-04:002010-07-26T13:57:30.145-04:00Good ideas, Dixieyid. I just finished law school m...Good ideas, Dixieyid. I just finished law school myself. I'll be teaching in a liberal arts college though for the next year, so how many hours I put in will be technically up to me (though I'm sure I'll have to work hard).<br /><br />Of course it's best to work fewer hours. Aside from Torah study/spirituality concerns, long hours put so much strain on families, and people's physical and emotional health. Some professions make balance difficult. Law is known for long hours, but there is in reality much more flexibility than in other fields, like medicine (where residents tend to work 80-100 hours for years, and then work nearly that much for the rest of their careers).<br /><br />Most government lawyers work 40 hour weeks. Many solo practitioners work long hours, but it is possible to limit one's hours by taking fewer clients and working mainly in certain practice areas, and by keeping expenses low by sharing office space or working at home. There is a growing number of people working as freelance lawyers (not just "contract attorneys" who are paid little and often work bad hours). Some have managed to make a good living doing this, and many are happy with the flexibility. They have a professional association and some blogs. Of course, the income is less predictable.<br /><br />It is also possible to ask a full-time employer to cut down on hours. This seems ludicrous but it has been done. The book the The 4 Hour Workweek has a whole system for doing this (as one of its methods for working less). Not sure how it would apply to law, but the book has inspired many people to find ways to work less while still making a decent (sometimes increased) income.<br /><br />In time I'm sure you will find the right balance! Kol tuv!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-56895192155791080862010-07-26T11:44:57.457-04:002010-07-26T11:44:57.457-04:00Micha,
Thank you for the chizuk. IY"H, I&quo...Micha,<br /><br />Thank you for the chizuk. IY"H, I"ll be zoche to remember that the job is not an ends, but a means. Even though I know this intellectually, real consciousness of that fact is the trick.<br /><br />Machinegunfodder,<br /><br />I don't really think the problem is that I've "sold out" on my dreams and will be working in a job that I don't enjoy. My problem is more the opposite. I've gotten a taste for the work and I *do* enjoy it. That's what worries me.<br /><br />I worked at this firm for 10 weeks last summer primarily in the practice area I'll be working in this fall. I got to see what life would be for me in the future and I got to do some of the kinds of work I'll be doing. I don't say that I got a picture of what it'll be like in the fall because of *my* particular experience, which was somewhat storybook-like. Summer Associates are given somewhat of a cushy ride. But I did talk to a lot of associates and heard what they were doing after I left each day, so I'm aware of what I'll be getting into.<br /><br />Like I said, I actually enjoy the work for the most part. I enjoy the challenges and the little victories in each project. But that's the problem. I'm worried that I'll be so engrossed in the work and the long hours that I won't have the energy for a hisbodedus session before I go to sleep. Or that I'll be focused (which is how I work when I work well) that I won't have the mental space to spend 30 second hisbonenus'n throughout the day reminding myself of the root source and ultimate purpose of the "gold and silver" is.<br /><br />That's the challenge that I think I have to overcome if I want to accomplish anything in the areas of life that really matter.DixieYid (يهودي جنوبي)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03713423988723533390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-66475226441593213072010-07-26T09:08:21.236-04:002010-07-26T09:08:21.236-04:00My dad always said find a job you like and you wil...My dad always said find a job you like and you will never work a day in your life. I sense that you already fear getting taken for a ride on the gravy train. It is sad that the monetary pressures of our society have forced us to abandon our dreams. If the dixie yid from your childhood met the current dixie yid (ala mr. deeds) he would probably kick the current dixie yid in the pants for abandoning his dreams? It's a sad reality we live in perhaps the curse of by the sweat of the brow we must earn our bread. Stay strong and IY"H you will find an avenue in law that speaks to the essence of your soul and develops you as a person and oveid hashem<br />hatzlachamachinegunfodderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10707468540479104818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2606399196932045640.post-3248828738157816462010-07-26T06:12:59.207-04:002010-07-26T06:12:59.207-04:00Frum Jews do not "join te rate race",
th...Frum Jews do not "join te rate race",<br />they "work for chinukh". (If not <i>in</i> chinukh, at least <i>for</i> it.)<br /><br />Dark humor aside.... My point is, I don't think a career threatens one's deveiqus until one forgets that it's just a means. As long as you stay grounded and remember that your job is just one aspect of building a bayis neeman beYisrael, you should be okay.<br /><br />-micha<br />(who writes computer software for a hedge fund)micha bergerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11612144735431285113noreply@blogger.com