Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Can Unbalanced Parenting Styles be Successful?

Click on over to A Simple Jew for my answer to the following question about the balance, or lack thereof, between the traits of Chesed and Gevurah (kindness and strictness) in parenting:

A Simple Jew asks:

On a few occasions, I have witnessed examples of working fathers still attempting to play the role of traditional nurturing mother because of their distaste to sometime have to play the stricter masculine role that a father is often required to play. Instead providing the counterbalance of gevura, this type of father will attempt to replicate the chesed exhibited by the mother so he never has to be viewed as the "mean" parent. Rachel Arbus once wrote, "Parents need not act in the same manner - but they must have similar philosophies and a common goal."

Do you think it is possible that a chesed-chesed type of parenting style can ever be successful? Also, do you think it would be possible that a chesed-gevura parenting style with flipped roles with the father as the chesed and mother as the gevura be successful?

Dixie Yid Answers:


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Anonymous said...

Dixie Yid, please post this. It's a favorite of Rav Moshe Weinberger and the whole Aish Kodesh crew and also is mekayem Zachor Shabbos even during the week!


DixieYid (يهودي جنوبي) said...

I made a post out of it here: http://dixieyid.blogspot.com/2008/01/shlomo-katzs-shabbos-kodesh-niggun.html

Awesome awesome niggun!!!!!!!!! Thanks for bringing it to my attention!

-Dixie Yid