Below, please find this adaptation of Rav Weinberger's drasha from this Shabbos, parshas Vayakheil 5779. Rav Weinberger has reviewed this write-up and any corrections are incorporated herein. Enjoy!
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Rav Moshe Weinberger
Parshas Vayakheil 5779
Surprise Me
A
remarkable event occurred this past Tuesday. Tens of thousands of holy Jewish
women around the world gathered together to daven together for the redemption.
Strangely, because my name was listed alongside the gedolim who lent
their names and approval for the event, I received several dozen phone calls
from concerned rabbis who apparently did not wish to call Rav Chaim Kanievsky
or Rav Reuven Feinstein to criticize their support for this day of tefillah.
These phone calls caused me to ask myself why Jewish women today are more
aligned with the desire to bring the world to the final redemption? Why not the
men? What particular feminine quality primes women for this type of holy
endeavor even more than men?
Let
us delve into this question in light of the first major project to which the
entire nation dedicated themselves, the building of the Mishkan. In parshas
Terumah, there is no mention of the women participating in the donations to
or the building of the Mishkan: “Speak to the children of Israel an,
‘And you shall take for Me a gift from every man…” (Shmos 25:2).
But in Vayakheil, the Torah and Chazal strongly emphasize women’s
contributions: “The men came with the women, every generous-hearted person…”
(ibid. 35:22). According to Ramban and Rabbeinu Bachaya, only the women brought
gold. The men only donated things of lesser value. And the Torah continues,
“And every wise-hearted woman spun with her hands…. And all the women whose
hearts uplifted them with wisdom, spun the goat hair” (ibid. 25-26). The women
were engaged in spinning goat’s hair in the most remarkable way to make the
highest-possible-quality material for the Mishkan.
We
see that Hashem and Chazal wished to emphasize how the women were at the very
center of the project to donate-to and build the Mishkan? Why is this? And why
were the women not mentioned at all in parshas Terumah?
In
chapter 18 of Messilas Yesharim, the Ramchal zt’l explains
what the trait of piety – chassidus means. It means thinking what Hashem
would appreciate above-and-beyond what is required and doing that for G-d. To
put this in modern terms, chassidus means doing the same thing for
Hashem that one does when he or she makes a surprise party for someone they
love. There are certain things one needs in a relationship and it is perfectly
appropriate for ask one’s partner to fulfill that need. In such instances, the
fact that one person asked takes nothing away from the value of the other
person’s fulfillment of that need. But it is nonsensical for one person to ask,
“Honey, next week is my fortieth birthday. Can you please make me a surprise
party?” By definition, a surprise party is something that arises from the heart
of the one planning it for the other. Asking for a surprise party is an
exercise in absurdity.
But
the Ramchal teaches us that Hashem says to us, “Surprise Me!” Although Hashem
knows what we are thinking and planning, it makes Him so happy when we say to
ourselves, “What would Hashem really love? What would give Him nachas?”
There are many things that are required by halachah. And if a Jew
observes Shabbos according to every din in Shulchan Aruch and Mishnah
Berurah, including the rules of oneg Shabbos by singing at the
Shabbos table and enjoying the traditional Shabbos foods, one cannot have any
claim against him. But this is not chassidus. A chassid always thinks about what Chazal
say, “I have a great gift in my treasure house and it is called Shabbos” (Shabbos
10b). He recognizes that Shabbos is a gift so he wants to reciprocate that
present by asking what would make Hashem happy even though it is not required.
One
of the most apparent differences between men and women is that the vast
majority of men do not go beyond what is technically asked and required of
them, whereas women often understand intuitively what another person needs or
wants without being explicitly asked. This difference is apparent in a
remarkable teaching by the Maharal on the passuk, “Thus shall you
say to the house of Yaakov [the women] and tell to the children of Israel [the
men]” (Shmos 19:3). Rashi explains that this passuk
teaches that Moshe was commanded to speak gently to the women, but more
directly or harshly to the men. Most people understand Rashi to mean
that women are more sensitive, so one must treat them with kid gloves and walk
on eggshells around them, lest one hurt their feelings.
But
the Maharal (Drush Al HaTorah: “V’sageid l’Bnei Yisroel…”)
explains quite differently. The only way men are likely to do what is needed
only if they are told clearly, in no uncertain terms, exactly what is expected
of them. If one uses subtly or expects them to infer what they should do, the
message is likely to go right over their heads. Moshe was therefore told to
command the men in direct, succinct, and unambiguous language, lest they miss
the point. But with respect to the women, Hashem told him to speak gently with
them because He knew that the women would infer even from indirect or gentle
language everything that they could do for G-d even without being told
explicitly.
We
can now understand why the Torah doesn’t mention the women in parshas
Terumah, the parshah in which Hashem commanded exactly what the Jewish
people were required to do with respect to the building of the Mishkan.
But parshas Vyakheil is the parshah of the actual carrying out of the
donations-to and the building of the Mishkan. The women were not
included in the initial commandment because Hashem knew they love to surprise
other people. He knew they would participate without being formally commanded.
And this played out in Vayakheil, where the women donated even more
generously than the men and spun the materials for the Mishkan in the
most remarkable way to ensure that it was of the highest quality.
This
also explains why tens of thousands of women gathered together around the world
to find a new way to beg Hashem to redeem us. And it sheds light on the
perplexing phenomenon of so many rabbis and men who were confounded by the
event. I explained to a number of people that besides the fact that Rav Chaim
Kanievsky shlita, and Rav Reuven Feinstein shlita lent their
approbations to the event, the Chofetz Chaim in his sefer Tzipisa
L’yeshua, lamented how desensitized we have become to our exile, saying
that he did not understand why men and women were not marching in the streets
begging Hashem for the redemption. There were even people who criticized the Chofetz
Chaim for making such a “big deal” about lashon hara. Yet today
everyone recognizes the importance of emphasizing and holding events to
strengthen this aspect of our service of G-d.
Thankfully,
the Jewish women of today and are the forefront of making this “surprise party”
for G-d – holding an event to daven, beg, and plead that Hashem’s glory return
to earth with the coming of the complete redemption soon in our days. May their
and our prayers be answered quickly!
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