Monday, August 4, 2008

New Gemara Shiur with Bilvavi Mishkan Evneh Author

Received via e-mail:

חברים יקרים,

בע"ה אנחנו מתכוננים לפתוח קבוצת לימוד עם הרב בימי שישי בבוקר במבוא חורון ללימוד עיון הגמרא הקדושה.
פרטים נוספים ומקום לשאול שאלות שיכולות לעזור גם לאחרים:
http://www.yehudim.net/forum/showthread.php?t=12

אתם מוזמנים להעביר את המייל והכתובת לכל מי שזה יכול להיות רלוונטי עבורו. כמובן שעדיף מי שכבר מכיר את דברי הרב
ומחובר לדבריו בצורה כזו או אחרת אבל - בכל אופן הקבוצה פתוחה גם לכאלו שלא קראו / שמעו את דברי הרב בעבר.

בהצלחה ושנזכה בע"ה ללמוד ולפתוח קבוצות ושיעורים נוספים.
-Dixie Yid

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Advice on Channeling Aggression - Guest Post by "Duvid"


When it comes to child rearing, it's no secret that men have easier time disciplining kids than women do. So I asked myself, why is it for example, that when a kid starts acting in a way that urgently needs correction, it often takes me one stern word, along with a joke, to set them straight, whereas my wife has to get to the point of screaming and being upset at the kid. And then of course, the kid gets upset and throws a tantrum, so it's a vicious cycle... So I thought about it, and came to this answer: when i give my kids a stern look, they know I mean business... Not that I'm ever going to do something hurtful to them Chas v'Shalom (even if they continue misbehaving), but just as a man, i know how to be very aggressive, and how to control and channel that aggression in a very specific way, and kids feel that... Along with a joke that puts their minds at ease, it works wonders to keep them at bay.

My wife however, doesn't know how to be aggressive (as true for most women)! Kids feel that, and take advantage of it, forsing her to get upset in order to discipline the kid... And disciplining kids while you're upset is not good for anyone...

So i said, hmm!... Let me teach my wife how to be aggressive!!! Especially living in Israel where one doesn't know when one might be faced with an attack, it didn't take long to convince her to let me teach her some martial arts...

I chose one of the simplest techniques, just a straight punch, and we started practicing, with me holding a pillow at my torso and her punching it. The main thing I wanted to bring out is the aggression (BTW, most martial arts classes do not emphasize it enough). I told her like this: one moment i want you to be totally calm, and the next moment, you throw yourself, punching through the pillow. Imagine it's a terrorist... Scream!!! Yeah, go go go... (yeah, it was fun!). Soon she made some progress, from slow, stiff and unsure punches to actually throwing her fists through that pillow, in a sure and strong way... We also worked at being subtle, as well as not setting for the punches. Then we also added a straight thrust - shove (we only work on the simplest techniques). I stood about 5 feet from the wall and had my wife try to shove me and pin me to the wall. At first she couldn't do it, but after some practice she shoves me right to the wall in one go, making a sound like an accelerating motorcycle! (I'm very particular about sounds, there're some sounds that bring out aggression more than others, sound of accelerating motorcycle is one of them. Beginners often make sounds as if they're giving birth - that's not a sound for aggression but rather for pain relieve.) Pretty impressive, as I'm much bigger than her.

When I mentioned this to a friend who's a family counselor he was like, "hmm, I'm not sure it's a good idea..." But we both like it! We've only done it for a few weeks and I notice some improvement in how my wife deals with the kids...

The point here, as concerns dealing with kids, is not to scare them into behaving, but rather to work on ones own ability to control ones aggression. And yes, controlling aggression means being able to become very aggressive in a moment, at will, and channel that aggression very specifically, as well as being able to stop and become calm in a moment. As we say, "moach shalit al halev...". As opposed to not controlling ones aggression, which means lack of control both as one becomes aggressive (one explodes because he/she "just can't take it any more", and this "explosion" can know no bounds) and lack of ability to calm down fast and at will. When one has control over ones aggression, one finds that one really doesn't have to scream at his kids so much! Kids love being around an adult who has an inner sense of self control, and behave accordingly. And when one does have to discipline, one is able to do only what's necessary, with out being too harsh, or too strict, and without himself/herself getting upset.

So what we did is just try to develop some "aggression control exercises". Along with giving one self confidence of knowing how to defend oneself, I think of it as a very positive development. Hope people find these ideas helpful.

-"Duvid"

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New Rosh Yeshiva at Yeshivas Derech Hamelech



Thanks again to David Levy for the tip, I wanted to pass on the news that Yeshivas Derech Hamelech has a new Rosh Yeshiva. Here's the bio from their website, which has information on the other members of the staff as well:

Rabbi Shlomo Aschkenazy shlit"a

Rosh HaYeshiva

Background
Born in Rome, Italy, in 1948, Rabbi Aschkenazy's family traces its roots to Belz. Saved from the Holocaust by virtue of their location in Italy, the Aschkenazys traveled west to America in 1955, settling in Washington Heights. It was during his formative years in learning that Rabbi Aschkenazy had the exposure to Torah giants Rabbi Gedalia Schorr zt”l, Rabbi Yaakov Kamenetsky zt”l, and Rabbi Pam zt”l. Rabbi Aschkenazy also recalls the important influences of Rabbi Zelig Epstein shlit”a of Sha'arei Yosher and Rabbi Wolfson shlit”a.

While a student at Torah Vodaath, Rabbi Aschkenazy was also greatly influenced by “teachers of another kind”--Rabbi Breuer zt”l and Rabbi Schwab zt”l, of the Washington Heights community. Of Torah V'Daas he comments: “It was a makom of a wide-breadth of Torah. The scope of the genius there was beyond comprehension. The fire of yiras shamayim, commitment to values of yiddishkeit became ingrained in my bones there.”

In later years he became a friend and chevrusa to Rabbi Mottel Zilber. While at Lakewood, Rabbi Aschkenazy learned under Rabbi Shneur Kotler shlit”a before heading to the Mir-Jerusalem for almost a decade during which he became extremely close with Rabbi Chaim Shmulevitz zt”l.

Rabbi Ashckenazy soon found himself as Maggid Shuir at ITRI while learning at the Kollel Ger, Knesses Yehuda Kollel.

Nearly thirty years ago, Rabbi Aschkenazy was presened with an opportunity to open a kollel under the auspices of the Bostoner Rebbe. “At that time there were no kollelim for English speakers who were baalei teshuva. The Bostoner Rebbe gave birth to the idea and the Ger Rebbe Simcha Bunim zt”l gave me his blessing and encouragment.” Rabbi Aschkenazy reminisced, “He didn't really offer an alternative in our discussion.”

Rabbi Aschkenazy was very motivated to join the efforts in building and advising Yeshivas Derech HaMelech from his blessing over two decades prior from the Ger Rebbe in starting the Bostoner Kollel, and is now the Rosh Yeshiva.

“Yeshivas Derech HaMelech represents a commitement to build b'nei Torah based on the fundamentals of chassidus with warmth, sensitivity, and concern for the person. Attention to p’nimius content, avodas Hashem, and the laws of Shulchan Aruch are meant to attract and inspire the students and create an atmosphere of well-rounded talmidim. Exposure to Torah personalities who have dedicated their lives to the principles and teachings of chassidus and dveikus Hashem is felt here.”

“I relish the chance to see the guys, to share stories and midrashim, to reinforce the connection of their lives to the lives of our forefathers, those from the distant and recent past. The energy and atmosphere is new and exciting and steady. The success here, today, is tangible and continued success, inevitable.”


-Dixie Yid

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Sunday, August 3, 2008

Dixie Yid/Jack Daniels Old No. 7 Blog


My new good friend Dan Weinstein, whose art I recently posted, was kind enough to create the graphic that appears above for me! As a Tennessee native who has actually toured the Jack Daniels distillery, I really appreciate this. Thank you Dan! And remember, he has an art show going on now until September 1st, called "Surfboards & Psalms" a Solo Exhibition at the J.Klaynberg Gallery located in Chelsea, New York City at 121 West 19th Street. More info HERE.

-Dixie Yid

Update 11/17/08: You can get t-shirts, a mousepad, etc. with this logo on it HERE.

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Saturday, August 2, 2008

Weeklong Learning Program in Berkely, CA - Accomodations Provided


I received an e-mail from Jody Feld, through Yosef Hakohen, about this very interesting learning opportunity for anyone who is willing to travel to Berkely, CA for the week to learn during the week of August 11-17th with Beit Midrash Ohr HaChaim. Click on the brochure above for a larger version of their flyer. If you would like full bios, registration information and a schedule for the week, CLICK HERE for the full pdf brochure.

Here's some of the information that was e-mailed to me:

We are an independent Torah learning center located in Berkeley, California. In this, our 10th anniversary year, we are running a special Yeshiva Week of Learning program. We have brought in 3 very special teachers: The Samborer Rebbe, Rabbi Hershel Yolles, shlita,
Rabbi Chaim Zev Citron (from LA), and Rabbi Jay Yaakov Schwartz (from NY).

Rabbi Yolles, The Samborer Rebbe, is a direct descendent of the Baal Shem Tov, and the current Samborer Rebbe. Rabbi Citron is a Lubovitcher, and Rabbi Schwartz is a yeshivish lamdan who is now deep into Breslev since about 5 years ago. All 3 are outstanding teachers. You can read more on their blurbs on the brochure.

This program is unique in many way. First, programs like this, with teachers like this do not happen in a place like Berkeley, California. It will be worthwhile for people to travel for such a program, kind of like a spiritual vacation, and we have arranged special rates at a nearby motel for those who do. The program is a complete immersion, from morning till night, and includes a Shabbaton and melave malka. Do take a look at the brochure.


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Friday, August 1, 2008

Remembering the Churban Beis HaMikdash - Part 3 - Rabbi Chaim Morgenstern


Remembering the Churban Beis HaMikdash

Torah Insights for Enabling Us to Feel the Loss and Yearn for the Rebuilding
of the Beis HaMikdash

By Rabbi Chaim Morgenstern

Reprinted from the booklet with permission by the author.

Part Three

PERSECUTIONS AND AFFLICTIONSDURING AND AFTER THE CHURBAN

To truly perceive the magnitude of the physical destruction of the Jewish nation, it is incumbent to read and study the Aggados that describe it in Mesechta Gittin (55b-58a), Talmud Yerushalmi Taanis (23a-25b), Mesechta Sanhedrin (96a-b), Midrash Eicha and the history book Toldos Am Olam (by Rav Shlomo Rottenberg, vol. 4).
The carnage, atrocities and afflictions that we suffered during both destructions were far worse in magnitude than all the subsequent persecutions of the Jewish people. From the small amount of information that Chazal have documented, we can get a glimpse of the grim and gruesome events that transpired then.
To mention a few:

• A rebellious group of youths (biryonim) burned the wheat silos in Yerushalayim, resulting in a severe hunger period. (Gittin 56a).
• Chazal relate that there were 600,000 cities in a region called Har- Hamelech. Each city had 600,00 inhabitants, except for three, which had 1,200,000 (ibid, 57a-b). A simple calculation brings the total number of Jews in this area alone to 360 billion! (Note: the Maharal comments that this number is not literal; rather, it shows the enormity of the Jewish nation. Nevertheless, the actual number must have been enormous for Chazal to use such astronomical figures.) These Jews were murdered, tortured or taken into captivity. Although Chazal do not mention the immorality committed by the gentile armies, they do give us a glimpse of this crime by mentioning the 400 youths who committed suicide before the Romans submitted them to do immoral acts.
• A woman witnessed her seven sons put to death because of their refusal to bow to idols (some say that it was Chana).
• During the first destruction, Nevuzaradon murdered over 3 million Jews, and when he saw Zecharia Hanavi’s blood bubbling in the Beis Hamikdash, he went on another killing spree, murdering the 94 sages of Sanhedrin Hagadol and Hakatan, many youths and cheder children. He also burned 80,000 Kohanim who tried to flee (Yerushalmi Ta’anis 25a).
• In Alexandria, Adryanus killed 1,200,000 Jews.
Subsequently, all the persecutions, atrocities and afflictions that we suffered during the Crusades, the Spanish Inquisition, gezeiros Tach V’Tat (1640-48), blood libels and the Holocaust are a direct result of the churban.

Tragedies That Befell the Jewish Nation on Tisha B’Av
after the Churban Beis Hamikdash

v The fall of Beitar and the end of the Bar Kochba revolt against the Romans 52 years after the destruction of the Beis HaMikdash.
During the destruction of Betar, Aspasyanus murdered 4 million Jews (some say 40 million!). Jewish blood flowed via two rivers and emptied into the Mediterranean Ocean. The Talmud Yerushalmi (ibid. 24b) adds that this distance was close to 24 miles, and that 2.4 miles of the ocean turned red from the blood. In fact, the flow was so high that it reached the nostrils of a horse. The rivers, a third of which consisted of blood, were used as fertilizer for seven years.
v The Jews of England were expelled in 1290.

v Pope Urban II declared the First Crusade. Tens of thousands of Jews were killed, and many Jewish communities obliterated.

v The Jews of Spain were expelled in 1492.

v World War one broke out on Tisha B'Av in 1914 when Russia declared war on Germany. German resentment from the war set the stage for the Holocaust.

v Deportation of Jews from the Warsaw Ghetto began.

It seems easier for us to relate to them because of the enormous amount of material describing these persecutions and horrors in detail, especially the Holocaust, which occurred less than 70 years ago. Nevertheless, we should not lose sight of the magnitude of the destructions of both Batei Hamikdash.

REALIZING THE LOSS

Once we have realized what we’re missing and how our nation has suffered, we can begin to fulfill the “neshama” of the mitzva of remembering the churban. The following parable of the Dubno Maggid exemplifies the different levels of feeling the churban. A European farmer was offered a business opportunity that could secure him a life-long income. A businessman, desperate for money, was selling a huge plot of land at a bargain price, guaranteeing a 100 percent resale profit within five years. He was asking 10,000 rubles, which was the farmer’s entire lifetime savings. After consulting with some advisors, the farmer decided that it was a worthwhile one-time investment opportunity, and told the seller that he would bring him the money by the following day. Upon returning home he found his son in tears.

“What happened?” he asked his son.

“I was playing with a bundle of nice, colorful pictures when they accidentally fell into the fireplace and were completely burned. Now I don’t have anything to play with!” he cried.

Curious to know the nature of these mysterious pictures, the farmer then turned to his wife, who was beside herself, frantically wailing.
“Rivka, why are you crying so much?”

Gasping for breath, she turned to her husband and said, “Our whole life’s savings are now ashes!”

The farmer then realized that those “pictures” were his 10,000 ruble notes that he was going to use to purchase the land. He immediately broke down and started weeping profusely. The father, mother and son were now all weeping – but for different reasons. The son was sad because he lost his toy. The mother realized that it wasn’t just a toy but their life’s savings. The father realized that it was more – he had just lost a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to acquire a secure income.

When we cry over the churban, what do we feel that we’re lacking? For some people, it is peace and security from the oppression of the nations, for others it’s korbonos to atone for our aveiros, and still for others it’s the fact that the Beis Hamikdash provides a special opportunity for the entire Klal Yisroel to accomplish their mission and for the entire world to recognize Hashem’s supremacy (tachlis ha’briya ve’tikun ha’olam). Sometimes people become so accustomed to their present-day lifestyle that they begin to think and feel that it’s possible to have a good life without the Beis Hamikdash. On the contrary, Chazal (Shir Hashirim Rabbah 4:6) compare the Beis Hamikdash to one’s neck, which when removed, makes life impossible to live. We must feel that the Beis Hamikdash is an absolute necessity to our lives –like a soul to a body – not just an advantage (ma’ala).

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Thursday, July 31, 2008

Spending Shabbos with the Bilvavi Mishkan Evneh Author - Guest Post


As I posted a couple of weeks ago, there was a Shabbaton near Meron with the author of the Bilvavi Mishkan Evneh seforim, Rav Itamar Shwartz, shlita. A friend of Dixie Yid, the heiligeh Reb Tuvia, was at the Shabbaton with him family and has been kind enough to write the following summary of his experience that Shabbos:

Shabbos with the Rav and talmidim sponsored by Mercaz Shorashim in Ohr haGanuz (near Meron).

It was a mixed crowd- about 100 men, women and children. Streimels, knitted kippas, black kippas, Ashkenazim, sefardi, frum, not frum, the Rav's parents. There was a big mechitza for the seudas and the drashas. The director of the Shorashim Center (where the Rav gives drashas on Thursday evening) is a Belzer Chossid. He had the zechus of sponsoring the Shabbos in conjunction with Mrs.Weber, head of the Bilvavi non-profit organization of Israel.

It was the yahrzeit of the Ohr haChaim haKadosh on erev Shabbos. The Rav gave a drasha explaining the minhag of chassidim to learn Ohr Chayim Friday night and to learn a Torah from the Baal Shem Tov motzoei Shabbos. Minhag Yisrael is Torah. The Ohr haChaim is m'ramez the ruach and the Bescht is m'ramez the nefesh. The connection between the nefesh and ruach. The connection between the body and soul.

How we can merit in ourselves to see the light of the Moschiach.

The seuda was long and we benched after midnight. Afterwards the Rav went out into the fields with

talmidim and talmidot. The Rav asked a question: "with all of the advice and different forms of avodah being suggested in the seforim of Bilvavi Mishkan Evneh- how can one practically put them into effect? " For 10 minutes of solitude everyone contemplated in the hills of the Galil near Meron. Everyone thought of an answer. The Rav did not give “an answer.”

Davening at 8 AM (so early!). After the seudah the Rav spoke on men and women covering their hair according pinimius haTorah. First the Rav reviewed the halacha for men and women. Borer on Shabbos is not the same as borer during the week. The follicles of hair that fall upwards and downwards are close to the brain and should be covered. Very deep.

Before Mincha the Rav gave a drasha on the parsha- Pinchas, Eliahu, Rebbi Akiva, Moschiach. Gilgulim and tikkunim.

What stayed with me was what the Rav said before mincha: The body is really the light of the neshama in the lowest world." In Da-Es the Rav clarifies the dichotomy between thinking: Am I a body with a neshama in it? OR am I a neshama clothed in a goof? Here the Rav said something else: the body is actually the light of the neshama in the lowest world- there is no dichotomy!

Lets hope that during the upcoming tour of the Rav to the States we can ask the Rav to explain the drasha on the ohr haChaim and the Baal Shem Tov, and on men and women covering hair. Let’s hope.

-Tuvia

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"Teka B'Shofar & Tzipisa L'Yeshua: Living, Davening and "Seeing" the Ultimate Geula


Apropos to the time of the year, here is Reb Yerachmiel's shiur from this past Sunday from the Baltimore Community Kollel.

During these Bain Ha'Miztarim, we increase our focus on the words we daven three times a day: "Teka B'Shofar Gadol Lechayrusainu" and ask Hashem to "Sound that Great Shofar" from the heavens to announce Moshiach's arrival. This Shofar, most of us learned about at the youngest of ages.

It is the following request, however, "V'Sah Neis Lekabeitz Galuyosaynu", in which we ask Hashem to "Raise a Banner to Gather our Exiled Ones", which remains elusive even to the most experienced and educated. What exactly is this mysterious "Banner" and what might it mean to us?

In his latest shiur at the Baltimore Community Kollel, Reb Yerachmiel teaches us, through the penetrating and tear-filled eyes of Rav Shimshon Pincus zt"l, how we can, and must, begin to "see", and inspire others to "see", this Banner even today: by living, davening and experiencing a true yearning for Moshiach Tzidkainu; by living lives immersed in the battle cry of "Ki Le'Shuascha Kivinu Kol Hayom"; "For Your Salvation, Hashem, We Long All Day Long".

CLICK HERE to either listen to the shiur now by "left clicking" or "right click" and select "Save Target As."

-Dixie Yid

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Wednesday, July 30, 2008

The Role of Minhagim for Me in Avodas Hashem - Q&A at ASJ


A Simple Jew has posted a Q&A session over at ASJ, wondering whether I have considered adopting the minhagim of the Chassidus'n that derive from Chernobyl, due to my interest in the Meor Einayim of Chernobyl. Click on Over! His question is copy/pasted below:

A Simple Jew asks:

Aside from regularly learning his sefer, to what degree do you feel drawn to follow the derech of the Me'or Einayim? Have you ever contemplated attaching yourself to one of the Chernobyl dynasties, adopting Chernobyl minhagim, or even attempting to follow some of the Hanhagos Yesharos that are recorded and appended to the back of Rebbe Menachem Nachum of Chernobyl's sefer?

Dixie Yid Answers...

-Dixie Yid

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Rav Moshe Weinberger at Derech Hamelech - The Three Weeks


My friend David Levy has been kind enough to share with me this link to the audio of Rav Moshe Weinberger's drasha last week at Yeshivas Derech Hamelech in Yerushalayim. This is a yeshiva that he endorsed even before it was opened and was consulted by the great Rav who started the yeshiva, Rav Baruch Gartner all throughout the process of the yeshiva's formation. In this Drasha, Rav Weinberger teaches us what our avodah should be during this time of the Three Weeks. I spoke to a friend who was at the shiur and found it to be awesome.

You can listen to or download the mp3 of the shiur HERE.

-Dixie Yid

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Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Ideas on Making Yiddishkeit the Most Exciting Thing in Your Life


"Duvid" has wrote me a couple of e-mails in response to my post the other day about the quote from Rav Freifeld that "If the only way we can sell our children on Torah is by forbidding everything else, then we are bankrupt." He gave me permission to publish them because I think his ideas are worth sharing! Here you go:

First of all we should understand that it's impossible to make yiddishkeit more exciting than rock concerts. Ze kneged ze asa Elokim, implies that the sitra achara can be just as powerful (or seem so) as the kdusha. But it also implies that we CAN make yiddishkeit AS exciting and a rock concert!

Second, it's important to understand that the solution already exists, we just have to look in the right place to find it.

Now, we really have to define what we mean by excitement. When people go to concerts or soccer games they don't look for intellectual or emotional excitement. They look for the type of excitements that GETS INTO THEIR BLOOD AND BONES! If we can truly provide that in yiddishkeit, then we've almost won the game.

So first of all, this type if excitement does exist in yiddishkeit. If anyone want's to FEEL yiddishkeit IN HIS VERY BONES he's better go to Meron on Lag Baomer or to Uman on Rosh Hashana, and I think it is important to have these experiences from time to time, even though obviously yiddishkeit is not about "experiences", and even when experiencing these things one should not look for the experience but rather concentrate on one's avoda. However, the experience of feeling kdusha in one's very flesh is indeed very important, and should, and even must be felt to some extent every time one davens or does any davar sheb'kdusha. Like David Hamelech sais many times "bsari - my very flesh...". I think only then one will not pay any attention to a rock concert...

Now, we gotta discuss things that have crept into normative yiddishkeit that actually work against this concept. May be some other time...

That's as far as excitement. Of course, there're more things that contribute to people leaving yidishkeit unfortunately.

Our yiddishkeit should start shifting from being exclusively intellectual / mussar oriented to being EXPERIENTIAL. There's an undercurrent attitude in yiddishkeit now that sais experiences is not what yiddishkeit is about, they're sort of like a b'dieved thing... Or that one is not ready for these experiences untill he'd finished all of Shas... (I've witnessed in one yeshiva, after an unusially labedik dancing at kabalas Shabbos, the rosh yeshiva gave his dvar Torah in which he implied that one should not really do these things unless one learns Gemora 17 hours a day...) I think it's important to realize that experience is an integral part of yiddishkeit, and one has to properly cultivate those experiences, as well as properly prepare for them (and that's something that mechanchim should davka be thinking about, how to guide kids to experience spirituality in a proper way).

I have to say that this shift would require of us to drop some litvishe tendencies in favour of adopting chassidish ones (i don't know if you want to post that). (DY: :-D)

And most importantly, we have to remember what we're up against. If it's rock concerts, then the holy experiences we have have to match them! That's why I mentioned davka Meron and Uman...

There's more I could write, but let me just tell you of an experience (not the type i was writing about, just something i observed) that i had rescently, that's connected to your post:

Two Shabboses ago we visited my wife's cousin, they live in Bat Ayin, a yishuv south of Yerushalaim on the way to Chevron. It's a "Chabakuk" kind of place (you know, Chabakuk stands for Chabad, Breslov, Carlebach, and R' Kuk :-) ) with all different "spiritual" types. On Shabbos morning I went to the Breslov minyan. So after davening they danced a bit, and then put tables together, made kiddush, and sat down for what's called "sichat chaverim" (that's actually a part of their avoda, not stam)... Boy, was that something I enjoyed seeing! First of all, they start with a joke. B'davka. As they sat down they said "yesh l'mishehu b'dicha?" So they came up with some old joke that went something like "whats in common between a Breslover and a Subaru? - that they're always doing tikunim..." Then they read a bit from the sipurei maasiyos, and then they started this free flowing, funny, friendly conversation (there were about 15 - 20 of them), all revolving about holy topics, avodas hashem, how to overcome obsticles, how to be "tamim", etc. What impressed me about it was that it just seemed so natural! As if that's really what they want to talk about and nothing else! And they were funny too. And when some of them started arguing and it got beyond a certain point they all started singing... Teanagers and kids were sitting at the sides and listening in, enjoying every minute. I honestly can't imagine one of those kids thinking of yiddishkeit as boring... And after they finished, they put on their shtreimels (those of them that wear shtreimels - they're all dressed differently), and went home with their M16s hanging over their golden Yerushalmi bekeshers... Loooove that.

-"Duvid"

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Monday, July 28, 2008

L'Ilui Nishmas Sam Seidner, a Tzadik Who Has Left the World


BS"D

GINAT RISYA - Women's Bais Medrash

Tuesdays, Noon - 1:15pm - In Sherith Israel's Library

In memory of Sam (Shimon) Seidner

This past Thursday, July 27th, Tammuz 21 on the Hebrew calendar, a beautiful soul left this world.

Many of you remember Sam when he was the administrator of our Shul: a fresh pot of coffee always brewing, something baking in the oven and Sam constantly humming a "niggun"(a melody considered to be the language of the soul). Sam would greet you: "Hello Boob-ba-la." He'd shove a cup of coffee into your hand, pull out a chair for you and slide a plate of cake in your direction. He'd talk-to-you, sing-to-you, laugh-with-you, advice-you, cry-with-you, teach-you and inspire-you.

Sam was the heart of the Shul. He was the kind of guy who would pull a wad of bills, out of his pocket, and force it into your hands, even while his own family was experiencing financial difficulties.

And Sam would invite you over &over again to Shabbos dinner. He and his wife, Valerie created an unparalleled Shabbos atmosphere, infusing heavenly aromas, delicious foods, schnapps and "zemirot" (Shabbos songs) with lively,Torah discussion. Many families who came to Sam's and Valerie's Shabbos dinners became "Shomar Shabbos" themselves.

About fourteen years ago, Sam and Valerie made aliyah ultimately settling with their seven children and four grandchildren in Tekoa, Israel, continuing their countless acts of goodness and kindness. Valerie currently facilitates the Tekoa GINAT RISYA Midrasha.

GINAT RISYA World Wide will now include the following added section (underlined) in their opening remarks as Rebbetzin Posner was the mentor and close friend to Sam:

"This learning is dedicated in honor of Risya bat Shlomo Aharon -- ah-le-ha hashalom -- of blessed memory, and may her soul continue to fulfill the Rebbe's shlichus, the privilege of preparing the world for Moshiach. And also in the memory of Rebbetzin Posner's student, Shimon Beryl ben Yaakov."

By Margot Nash

Dixie Yid: P.S. As I was becoming religious I spent almost every Shabbos in the Seidner's home. Sam, Valerie and their wonderful family were a part of my life until, with a mixture of happiness and sadness, they made aliyah from Nashville, TN to pursue their dreams. They made a big impact on my life. Even though they have undergone so many types of misforture and suffering, they always maintained their Emunah and Bitachon in Hashem. I feel horrible for them in this terrible time and I cannot believe that we've lost Sam at such a young age. I daven that Hashem send nechama to Valerie, the children and the grandchildren.

(Picture of a playground in Tekoa, courtesy of Jewish Agency)

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The Practical and the Mystical - Guest Post by Alice Jonsson


I am often struck by how practical Judaism can be. Coming from an agnostic, secular background I thought of religion in general as being mystical and fantastical, not at all practical. In fact it seemed to me that religions, and I know I’m generalizing greatly, want us to go beyond a practical solution to a moral solution- and those seemed universes apart to me. And of course so many people get bogged down in stories that may seem impossibly fantastical, like spies and giants, plagues, and arks. Or concepts about the nature of God that are just too hard to wrap one’s brain around. There are so many people who don’t understand that the Torah isn’t just mystical and fantastical feeling stories. It also helps you to get along with your mother-in-law, to succeed at work, to break bad habits, to protect friendships, and to find a more meaningful way to view mundane activities like cleaning out the gutters on your house. The tangible successes that come from applying a practical principle to everyday life make the Torah real for me.

Keep in mind, I don’t pretend to be a Torah scholar. I also realize that there are mystical ramifications for very down to earth actions, so it’s quite complicated. This is a short list of some of the practical lessons that have really helped me.

1.There’s a time and a place for self criticism: One of the ideas that I came across in Rabbi Brody’s and Rabbi Arush’s books is that you should not walk around being critical of yourself all day. The time for that is in your hour of personal prayer. You meet with your creator and part of what you spend that time doing is assessing the decisions you made, for better or worse. But you should not clobber yourself all day, like some self-flagellating martyr who, instead of beating up on his flesh, as they do in some religions, is beating up on his soul. This puts you in a disconnected space and apparently puts you into the negative spiritual spiral. This makes a ton of sense to me. Furthermore, it seems clear to me that a person who is pessimistic about himself is more likely to see the whole world in those terms, which is clearly not productive.

2. Out of sight, out of mind: If you are trying to tame a temptation, don’t expose yourself to that temptation until you are really capable of staring it in the face and shouting an emphatic ‘no’. I can’t have Breyer’s mint chocolate chip ice cream in the freezer without eating it. Period. I’m not there yet. So why have it around? This is incredibly practical advice.

Related to this, of course, is how we interact with members of the opposite sex. I have come to see the logic in the sexes keeping a little distance, or even a lot depending on the situation. One clear benefit of this is that it protects a marriage. This is just one of those let’s-be-real situations that I can now see as practical.

3. Men are from Mars: Very generally speaking, the notion that men and women have different roles and strengths relating to those roles has helped in many practical ways. I am a feminist, dyed in the wool, yet I am comfortable with this notion, again very generally speaking. I realize that some people on both sides of the aisle don’t think it’s really possible to be a feminist and into Orthodox Judaism, but I contend it’s not a problem. Let’s save that discussion for another day and get back to the basic premise here. While there are some men who are better at traditionally feminine tasks and vice versa, I do think we are very different creatures in many ways. I think it’s quite practical to see the world this way.

From my perspective, this in no way legitimizes oppressing one gender or the other and should never ever be used in a negative way. But having a son has shown me not only how much we have in common as sexes, but also how boys just come out differently, generally speaking. As a child I did not want to wrestle people, for example. And I did not think it was funny to be spit on. He does. If you were to approach him and stick your tongue out and blow, he would embrace you like a long lost sibling. After he spit on you. He’s two, FYI.

4. Sparing someone’s feelings can be a great thing: The notion that telling the hundred percent truth in every single situation may not be the most moral thing to do. ‘Truth’ is not the highest value in a situation where someone has served you some really awful minestrone soup that they slaved over all day. You will eat that soup as if it’s the best soup ever and you will be grateful and make that person feel your loving gratitude. Very practical. Which directly relates to...

5. Conversely if they need to hear something, and they are open to it, you must tell them: I can’t tell you how many times I have been way too honest with someone when they were not ready to hear it. So rude and fruitless! On the other hand, there are moments where you must get over the fear and be honest. And I suppose this also means we need to be the kind of person who makes others feel they can be honest with us without crushing us beyond the point of repair.

6. We aren’t the mistakes we make: Which makes accepting criticism easier. It’s not an indictment of your total self. It’s a moment to reflect on an action that can be changed. This is a liberating and, again, very practical idea. It helps to be easier on yourself if you are the guilt ridden sort. It also takes the burden off of strained relationships. That person you have a hard time with isn’t the mistakes they have made, just like you aren’t. To me it means we should deal with the action that offended us and not commit a character assassination on the person. Which should be balanced with...

7. In being kind to the cruel you are, or will eventually be, cruel to the kind: To me, this means that we must impose order and apply the rules/laws fairly, even when it’s frightening or tough to do so. When we take the easy way out by not standing up to injustice, we put others in a vulnerable position. In other words, we feed the cruelty and become part of the problem. This strikes me as enormously practical advice. Tough, yet practical. It’s a nip-it-in-the-bud thing. I see parents making this mistake often, myself included, because it’s just so darn tiring to discipline, not to mention confusing. But as an educator of ten years I can tell you that parents who don’t get a grip on the discipline are creating a lot of pain and work for others, including the child.

At this point I’m thinking of the lyrics to a song by Coldplay, “If I could write a song a hundred miles long...” This list could go on and on. I’m really interested in finding out what others see as practical Torah concepts. Do tell!

P.S. An interesting addendum, right after I wrote this I had a Torah lesson wherein the rabbi discussed how hard it is for Americans to let go of dualistic thinking. Clearly this is the case for me to some degree. However, I have to wonder if it is only natural for someone just beginning down the road to relate more, to be inspired more, by the more clear action/reaction experiences. I’ve wondered if this is part of Hashem meeting us where we are as individuals. Maybe some people will be more reassured by seeing the successes that follow the application of very practical, seemingly earthy, as I would call it, advice. Maybe this is a stepping stone towards seeing the truth of more difficult to grasp concepts such as Moshiach or understanding how the Exodus could have occurred. Conversely, perhaps a different person would be inspired by the more mystical and grand stories of the early days of the Jewish people than by the more mundane daily advice that I find reassuring. I see it as clear evidence that the Torah describes reality, that it’s the blueprint.

-Alice Jonsson

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Sunday, July 27, 2008

Graphic Display of Most Common Words on Dixie Yid


Here are the words in Dixie Yid, with the most common words being larger, courtesy of Wordle. Saw this at Call Me Chavivah, a growing giores. Click on the picture to enlarge. :-)

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Friday, July 25, 2008

Remembering the Churban Beis HaMikdash - Part 2 - Rabbi Chaim Morgenstern


Remembering the Churban Beis HaMikdash

Torah Insights for Enabling Us to Feel the Loss and Yearn for the Rebuilding
of the Beis HaMikdash

By

Rabbi Chaim Morgenstern

Reprinted from the booklet with permission by the author.

Introduction Part two – continued


Rav Yaakov Emden writes, “If we would only be guilty for this one sin of not sufficiently mourning the churban, it would be enough of a reason for lengthening our galus. Especially on the sorrowful day of Tisha B’av, how many of us mourn and sigh from the depths of our hearts over the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash and the desolation of our land? How many tears are shed over these tragedies? Not to mention the rest of the year, when the churban is neither remembered nor spoken about. It doesn’t even enter our minds, and we feel as if it were a mere coincidence!” (Siddur Bais Yaakov, Laws of Tisha B’Av, 6:7). If these words were written over 200 years ago, what is left to say about the situation today?
Why is this indifference causing the lengthy galus? Perhaps because mourning over the churban shows an appreciation of the enormity of our loss, demonstrating a yearning for the final redemption. The degree of our yearning is proportionate to how much we actually feel the mourning. It shows Hashem that we have not severed our spiritual ties with Him, even after 2,000 years in galus living among the gentiles. Hashem says, “If My children desire a closeness with Me, then they are truly deserving that My Divine Presence rest among them and are worthy of having the Beis Hamikdash rebuilt.” If, however, we fail to properly mourn the churban, in effect we are actually saying, “We don’t consider the presence of the Beis Hamikdash and the Shechina of great importance, and are content with our present situation.” Then, chalila, Hashem says (mida keneged mida), “If My Children do not appreciate the importance of My Divine Presence in their midst, then they are still undeserving of having the Beis Hamikdash among them.” (In fact, Rav Chaim Volozhin writes that if we would feel the tzar haShechina – the pain and grief that Hashem feels because we no longer have the Beis Hamikdash – we would already merit the redemption (Quoted in Siddur HaGra, preface to Tefillas Rosh Hashana).

The requirement of remembering and feeling the churban applies even during our times of rejoicing, thus we have the halachos of placing ashes on a chasan’s head before the chuppa, breaking a vessel at a tanayim and chuppa, and restrictions on a bride’s headpiece (Shulchan Aruch O.C. 561:2-4). Rav Yaakov Emden attributes unsuccessful marriages to the laxity of observing these halachos (op. cit. #7).

Rav Shlomo Brevda tells a story that vividly exemplifies this feeling. There once was a wretched widow who never had a truly happy day in her life. Finally, the time comes to marry off her only daughter. All her friends and family come to the wedding to share in her first simcha. While they are all standing under the chuppa awaiting this momentous and joyous event, one person is crying uncontrollably – the bride’s mother.

“Why are you so upset?” asks her daughter. “This should be one of the most joyful days of your life.”

The mother replies, “My dear, I am extremely happy, as this is the first real nachas I’ve had in my life. However, I just remembered that Daddy is not here with us. We are alone without him, and this thought overrides my happiness. This is why I am crying.”

Rav Brevda comments that at every simcha we make in our lifetime, we have to remind ourselves that our Father is no longer with us. The Shechina has left us and will have no resting place until the Beis Hamikdash is rebuilt.

One of the reasons for our difficulty and indifference to feeling the churban can be explained by the following story. A Western tourist who was visiting Communist Russia was falsely accused of spying and sent indefinitely to Siberia. For many years he languishes, awakening each morning at 5 a.m. to eat stale bread and cold soup, then slaving at a work camp the entire day. He constantly yearns for the luxuries of his life back home. Eventually, he marries and has a child, who grows up with the same routine – awaken at 5, work all day, eat stale bread and soup. But this child will likely miss nothing, since he has never seen the Western world and is unaware of another lifestyle. Only his father, who remembers the good old days, is suffering. So, too, is our situation. Like the child who grew up in Siberia, we grew up in a world without a Beis Hamikdash. We can’t perceive what it means to feel Hashem’s Presence in the world, unlike the Jews who lived during the churban and understood and felt what this meant (cf Mishnas Rebbi Aharon ibid.).
Today we are so far removed from the Beis Hamikdash that, in effect, we are “still in Siberia.” Nevertheless, it is our duty to take practical steps that can retrieve this distant concept and make it a reality so that we can properly relate to and mourn the churban.

The parts of this and the following artcile will focus on three major concepts mentioned in the kinos:

1. The destruction of the Beis Hamikdash and galus Hashechina – the exile of God’s presence
2. The persecutions, afflictions and carnage of the Jewish nation during the churban
3. Anticipating Moshiach’s arrival.

VISUALIZING THE BAIS HAMIKDASH ERA

Since the long galus of almost 2,000 years seems to make these topics a thing of the past, simply reading about them is insufficient to arouse our emotions. Therefore, the most effective method that can be used to conceptualize these ideas and generate our feelings (regesh) toward them is to use our imagination. (Indeed, the Rambam writes that man was created to function through his imagination. Moreh Nevuchim, quoted in Yalkut Lekach Tov, Yomim Nora’im, Vol. 1, pg. 104.) The Chasam Sofer suggests that we should imagine being present at the destruction and witnessing the atrocities that took place then, just as we imagine the exodus from Egypt during the Pesach seder. (Drashos Chasam Sofer, Drush Lezayin Av, pp. 83-4)

WHAT WE’RE MISSING – SPIRITUAL LIFE IN THE TIME OF THE BEIS HAMIKDASH

To understand the true meaning of the churban Beis Hamikdash and galus Hashechina, we should ask ourselves two questions:

1. How would our daily lives be different if Hashem’s Presence were on earth again?
2. What would the world be like if we could have a direct and close relationship with the Almighty whenever we needed it?

If we had the proper answers to these questions, our desire for rebuilding the Beis HaMikdash would be real, deep and heartfelt. However, many people reply, “restoration of the avodas hakorbanos (sacrificial services to atone for our sins), a life of peace and tranquility in Eretz Yisrael for the entire Jewish nation and the recognition of Hashem as the Supreme Ruler of the world by all of mankind.” Although these are valid reasons to desire the rebuilding of the Beis Hamikdash, nevertheless they only represent the “body,” the outer surface, and not the “neshama,” the inner and more profound meaning and purpose, of the Beis Hamikdash. It is beyond the scope of this booklet to mention all the benefits we derived during the time the Beis Hamikdash existed. However, these few are enough to give us a glimpse of how our nation lived during that time.

How would our lives be affected if the Beis Hamikdash would be standing today? The Chinuch (Mitzva #95) writes that “The Beis Hamikdash was the epitome of holiness and purity in this world, which was created to attain self-perfection. This holiness and purity permeated all those entering it, purifying their thoughts, directing their hearts toward avodas Hashem and giving them the ability to cling to the Divine intelligence.” As a result of this connection, our ability to acquire wisdom was greatly increased and enabled Jews to reach the potential for which they were striving. In addition, Tosafos (Bava Basra 21a, s.v. Ki) writes that witnessing the kedusha and the avoda in the Beis Hamikdash inspired a person to have yiras shamayim and learn Torah. This is a possible explanation why Jerusalem was the center of Jewish scholarship.

The re-occurring miracles prevalent in the Beis Hamikdosh (some happening daily) were a source of tremendous spiritual inspiration for our nation (cf Pirkei Avos, ch. 5; Avos D’Rav Nasan, ch. 35.) Rashi explains that when the Jewish nation entered the Beis HaMikdashduring a yom tov (aliyas ha'regel), it was so crowded that the people had to press on each other in order to fit. But when they prostrated themselves in prayer, two miracles occurred: not only was there room for them to prostrate, but when they did, ample space of four amos (approximately 6-8 feet) was provided for each person (Yoma 21a).

Anyone who experienced such a dual miracle even once would certainly be inspired for a lifetime – but this occurred throughout the year! In addition, on a daily basis, a part of the Beis Hamikdash floor literally devoured certain parts of the bird offerings, ashes from the mizbayach (altar) and certain earthenware vessels that became unfit for use. Imagine, anyone could enter at any time and witness these miracles!

The korbanos also served as means for attaining spiritual perfection and closeness to Hashem. The variety of korbanos that each individual offered completely cleansed his soul from any blemish of an aveira (Commentary of the Gra, Shir Hashirim 1:16).

There were many other sources of inspiration during the time of the Beis Hamikdash. To name a few, the Jews enjoyed the fruitfulness of a special blessing on the earth’s produce, our tefillos were answered more readily32 and, during the first Beis Hamikdash, we experienced a special tranquility from the gentile nations. (Sotah 48a; Brachos 32b, as explained by the Steipler Rav in Chayei Olam, part 1 ch.28;Rabbeinu Yonah, commentary to Brachos, 7b s.v. kol [p. 4a in the Rif])

We can imagine the peace of mind that the Jewish nation experienced during this time. We had complete atonement form their aveiros, we didn’t worry about earning a livelihood or being subjected to hostility from the gentiles, and our tefillos were always answered. It is no wonder that the people of this era attained such tremendous spiritual perfection!

Prophecy was also widespread during the era of the first Beis Hamikdash. Chazal write that there were 1,200,000 prophets amongst us – approximately 3,000 each year!(Megillah 14a). To receive prophecy, one had to be exceedingly wise, knowledgeable of Torah, perfect in midos and in complete control of his thoughts and yetzer hara (Rambam, Hilchos Yesodei HaTorah, 7:1). Imagine the impact on our daily lives amid so many tzadikim, who were constantly communicating with Hashem on such a high level. Each person had his own “personal” navi who was always available to give proper guidance to solve his problems and gain perfection. Even if a person were ill, he would go to his navi instead of a doctor. The navi would tell him what sin he had committed and how he could rectify the situation. Can you imagine being confident that the advice you were receiving was directly from Hashem? Can you imagine being understood at the deepest level of your soul and being told what your tikun ha’neshama is? With this intensive amount of spirituality that the Beis Hamikdash brought into the world, each individual had a much greater opportunity to come closer to Hashem and reach the aims of his existence on earth.

It was during that epoch that the Jewish nation reached the highest levels that humans could attain. Rav Shlomo Wolbe said that the Beis HaMikdash was the only place that Hashem’s glory was clearly revealed. A person would enter the Bais Hamikdosh laden with transgression, and depart completely cleansed, feeling spiritually uplifted, and with a sense of holiness. Hashem’s presence was almost tangible.

The destruction brought an end to the Divine presence on this earth, all revealed miracles, special blessings, tranquility of Eretz Yisrael and prophecy, creating a tremendous spiritual void in the world and in our lives. And since the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash, we have been unable to fulfill more than half of the Taryag Mitzvos (cf Sefer Mitzvos Hakatzer of the Chofetz Chaim). The current spiritual level of the Jewish nation is the lowest in our history and is not improving. The vast majority of Jews are non-observant, and in fact many of them know nothing about Judaism except that they are Jewish. Intermarriage is rampant, and we are constantly battling secular Jews to preserve the drop of kedusha that still remains in our nation. (Indeed, some term this period a spiritual Holocaust.) The Gra compares our galus to a body without a soul; the longer it remains in the grave, the more it decays (End of Safra Detzniyusa).

The only single force that can stop us from further spiraling downward is the coming of Moshiach and the rebuilding of the Beis Hamikdash. This is what we should be eagerly anticipating.

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